A lot of parents ask, “What is the best bedtime for my baby or child?”. Although this is an understandable question, it is important to know that there is not just one answer. As with many topics, there are nuances to consider and there is no one right way. Instead of talking about the ‘best’ bedtime, we prefer to talk about the ‘ideal’ bedtime. The ideal bedtime for your baby or child depends on various factors, such as your child’s daytime routine, age and biological clock.
Daytime routine
Daytime routine is an important factor in the ideal bedtime for your baby or child. Your child’s average number of sleeping hours during the daytime and average awake time are sub-factors that play a role in this.
- Ideally, awake time is the maximum amount of time a baby can be awake until he or she is ready to sleep again. A newborn has a shorter awake time than an eight-month-old. Although every baby has a slightly different awake time, we see that the average awake times work best for most babies.
- Daytime sleeping hours means the number of hours of sleep a baby needs during the daytime. This is based on age. In other words, a younger baby needs more sleep during the daytime than an older baby.
Having said that, a baby’s daytime routine, especially wake-up and nap times, plays an important role in your child’s ideal bedtime, which depends on the time your baby wakes up after his or her last nap and, consequently, his or her awake time.
Ideal bedtime per age
Age is also a factor in the ideal bedtime. After all, the younger your child is, the more hours of sleep during the daytime he or she needs and the longer he or she can stay awake. Some babies transition naturally to less daytime sleep, while others need more help from their parents. Many young babies tire easily, so an early bedtime of 6 pm can be the ideal time to go to bed for the night.
During the first few weeks after birth, a baby’s biological clock is still not fully developed. So, in these first few weeks, there is no ideal bedtime because your child’s biological clock needs to get into a rhythm. At this age, bedtime can be anywhere from 6 to 11 pm.
"Babies do not develop their biological clock until six to eight weeks old".
Biological clock
As mentioned above, babies are not born with a biological clock. The biological clock (also called circadian rhythm) is our body’s internal clock. It determines when we want to sleep, when we wake up and when we want to eat. The natural hormones melatonin, which regulates the sleep-wake cycle, and cortisol, which helps to keep us awake, flow through our body 24 hours a day, so they influence our biological clock.
Babies do not develop their biological clock until six to eight weeks old. This development ends around the age of four months and melatonin and cortisol flow through the body at different levels throughout the day. This is shown in the image below.
Cortisol levels are highest during the daytime, while melatonin levels start to rise at around six in the evening. This tells us that a bedtime of between 6 and 7 pm from the age of around four months can be an ideal bedtime, provided your child’s daytime routine is appropriate for his or her age.
Purpose into my life
Being a single mom has its challenges, no doubt, and there have definitely been days when we were both crying at the same time! But my son has brought so much joy and purpose into my life, and I wouldn’t change a thing about how it happened, even if I could. Sure, there are times when I miss having a partner, but mostly I would just love to have that second income. And honestly now I don’t know how my married friends do it with a partner! As someone who is fiercely independent, I can’t imagine having to parent with another person. I’ve come to really enjoy the autonomy and empowerment that come with making parenting decisions solo.
